Don’t Let Time Be Your Enemy

By: vpierre@pilelaw.com

“We Thought We Had Time”: Preparing for Incapacity Before It’s Too Late

Pennslyvania
When my uncle had a stroke last fall, everything changed in one night.
He couldn’t speak.
He couldn’t sign his name.
And no one—not even his daughter—had legal permission to make decisions for him.

🧠 It’s Not Just About Age — It’s About Readiness

Most people think incapacity planning is for “older folks” or those already in care.
But the truth?
Accidents, illness, or sudden health changes can affect anyone.

🔐 3 Documents You Need BEFORE You Need Them

  1. Power of Attorney (POA)
  2. Allows a trusted person to manage finances, bills, and legal decisions.
  3. Healthcare Power of Attorney / Proxy
  4. Names someone to speak for you if you can’t speak for yourself.
  5. Living Will / Advance Directive
  6. Clearly outlines your end-of-life or emergency medical preferences.
Without these, even your spouse or children could be locked out of critical decisions. The courts may have to intervene — and that takes time and money.

💡 What’s the Risk of Doing Nothing?

  • Your bills go unpaid
  • Your medical care might not align with your values
  • Family members may argue or make rushed choices
  • A judge, not your loved ones, may make the final call

🛑 Don’t Wait for a Crisis

There’s a quote I love:

“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is today.”

The same goes for planning.
If you want to protect your dignity, your values, and your voice — start now.

👪 Especially for Caregivers

If you’re caring for a parent, ask:
✅ Do they have updated POA documents?
✅ Do you know their medical preferences?
✅ Have you talked about what long-term care looks like to them?

📞 Don’t wait until it’s urgent — let’s prepare before the “what ifs” arrive.
Because dignity doesn’t start in a hospital bed — it starts with a plan.